The past three weeks have had me sitting in front of the computer trying to write a piece for the Oxford Research Encyclopedia of Literature. My “day job” of being a university teacher means that I do research and write in addition to teaching and service. While I love my job, I do find writing very difficult. Mostly, I find it difficult because I don’t feel I’m very good at it.
As I sat down once again this morning, with the deadline now one day passed, I feel myself seize and I cannot write. I realize that I’ve not checked my email for four days, and so I decide to do that. And, as these things sometime happen, I read an email from Mindful that changes my perspective.
According to Kristin Neff, I shouldn’t be worrying about whether or not I’m good enough, I can have a little self-compassion:
“There is another way to feel good about ourselves that does not involve evaluating how good or worthy we are: Self-compassion is not based on positive evaluations of ourselves. Rather, it is a way of relating to ourselves. It involves being caring and supportive to ourselves when we fail, feel inadequate, or struggle in life—extending the same feelings of compassion to ourselves that we typically extend to others.”
I’m going to try this on. It certainly sounds better than the alternative.
For more details on self-compassion, read Neff’s article: